I’ve had stretch marks for as long as I can remember having a body that belongs to myself and no one else. I have memories of being told I have an amazing body and underneath a ‘Thank You’ there lay a hushed up ‘but you don’t know the depth of its stretch marks’. I don’t remember ever loving that part of me. Wait let me say this again – slower. I. don’t. remember. ever. loving. THAT PART OF ME.
One morning I woke up, stood bare in the face of a mirror, stared at myself and whispered ‘teach me something I don’t already know’ then began to smile at the parts that were so easily lovable, easily recognisable. Proceeded to move swiftly around the curves of my breast, sliding down my waistline all the way down to the crevices that would later go on to shape my womanhood right at the beginning of my thighs. A wonder. I continued to smile and journey all the way down to my legs, coming back up slowly behind my knees, feeling the back of my thighs to be met by the cute smile of my butt cheek.
I then turned around and a sudden feel of angst overcame me. An encounter with my stretch marks. Shit! Damnit! Shit! Demmet! What do I do now?
I took a deep breath and with panic, I looked again in the face of the mirror.
First looked with impatience.
Then with equations in my mind trying to figure out the best formula. The best formula to remove that PART OF ME. Why? Why would I want to erase a part of me?
I stared for a while. Listened. Took in. Ran my hands over them, trying to feel between the lines – oh what magic it was. My skin. My beautiful body. How beautiful it is that so selflessly you go through such measures to make me comfortable in my own skin.
At that moment I realised how loyal my skin has been to my growth and just how selfish I had been with sharing the glory of this growth.
These stretch marks are a celebration.  Every day without cease these stretch marks celebrate me. Celebrate my growth.  Even then smallest of growths that I am often blind to.
Since then I’ve had many conversations and shared laughs with my stretch marks about love, life and men who thought they knew about me over good shea butter salve.
To grow into your skin is such a beautiful thing. Such an intimate thing. Such a silent encounter.
To grow into your skin is to fall in love…